Preface to this Page: |
For a male-to-female
transsexual (MTF) - transitioning is the period when you stop living
your every-day life as man and begin living it as a woman. It
sounds short and easy - what more can be said? Actually, alot of girls have a lot to say, for example,
Calpernia Addams:
"I did feel like
I went through puberty at age 24. Learning to wear a bra, makeup,
date boys, all that - everything other girls learn at age 13. And
we're alone. Most of the time society hates us - people think
we're freaks or whatever - so you're doing all this alone. And it
can be really hard."
A New
Name The first approach helps
avoid the embarrassing situation of someone calling you by your new name but
you not reacting. A very possible scenario after a few glasses of
wine late at night in the first few weeks after transition! Also,
retaining the same initials can help in the re-use of old documents, and
it's credible to suggest that minor differences such as Tony vs Toni are
just a typo error.
A third option
is to adopt an unusual
or exotic
name that you like, e.g. Caoimhe, Eibhleann, Naimh, Orlaith,
... But the
challenge then is getting people to remember how to spell and pronounce it!
Documents
It
is then possible get a re-issued 'female' birth certificate, which in turn
allows changing your passport to 'F;. including as
flattering a photo as you can get away with! Armed with all these
documents is it's almost any other documents and
records can be changed.
If for some reason a
document cannot be re-issued, it is now relatively easy to obtain or
even produce for yourself a very authentic looking "corrected" version -
and this is a risk some transwomen choose to take. However, the
same march of technology also means that increasingly official records
and archives (including Births, Deaths and Marriages) are readily
available on both government computer systems and the internet, and even
the most convincing "original" document may be only a few keystrokes
away from suddenly becoming suspicious. Embedded digital
signatures are also now used to prevent the manipulation of documents
issued in an electronic format. If you don't pass convincingly as
a woman then the likelihood is that responsible staff/officials will
check out even the most authentic looking documents that state that you
are Female. If there has been misrepresentation or forgery, this
could lead to possible criminal charges.
Pre-Transition Tips:
When passing as woman (pre- or post-transition), if the name,
signature, address and [if present] photo are all okay, then it may
be possible to laugh off as a silly mistake give-aways like
"Sex: Male" on documents or in records. But unfortunately
confidence and convincing passability is essential when things
get to this point.
In practice it's
become essential to build-up a financial background and credit history in the years
before you transition. By far the easiest way of
doing this is by selecting a female name, she will then become
your fictional 'female' partner until you transition.
When choosing your female name, try to keep your initials and
surname the same - "Allison Beverley Smith" is a much better
name for an "Allan Brian Smith" to adopt than "Jane Helen
Monroe" would be. If you expect to eventually transition,
avoid whenever possible using the prefix "Mr" or full forenames
on documents, e.g. have "A B Smith" on your cheques rather than
"Mr Allan Smith". Avoid using a forename in your
signature, so the credit card of "A B Smith" can then be used by
either Allan or Allison. If you must provide a photo with
an application, use the most androgynous picture of yourself
that you can find, ideally as unfocused (difficult with modern
cameras!) as the issuer will let you get away with.
It's now very hard in the EU and UK to open a new bank
account without good supporting documents such as a utility bill
and passport, which may not be available prior to your
transition. However banks will
commonly issue a second credit card for a female
partner at the same address - in this instance use your
female title (prefix) and prenom (first name), e.g. "Miss
Allison Smith", and submit an en-femme photo, making it a
very useful form of emergency ID. Note: It also used to be possible to move
an existing bank account to a joint account with a female partner based on a completed form with signatures, but this now
(2018) seems to be impossible.
Finally, change over a utility bill into your new fictional female
partner's name as soon as possible, this will become important
proof of identify and residence as you kill off your old male
identity and "go solo" with your new name after transition time. There are now so many transwomen in the USA
(below) that the lingerie industry has begun
catering for them, e.g. sexy tight panties and extra large training bras.
Shown above, from the left, are offerings by Harmonica, Sophie Hines, PACT and AnaOno.
But the good news is that
you can stack the odds in your favour. Just fifty years ago only a
small percentage of adult men could in truth live and pass
convincingly as a woman; nowadays a transitioning MTF transsexual woman
can improve her percentages considerably. Some physical
characteristics (height, hands, feet, ...) remain almost impossible to
change, but the modern transsexual woman has an enormous battery of
weapons that allow her to feminise many of her other characteristics.
For example, good quality silicone breast forms and mastectomy bras are
available for as little as £200 ($300) which bestow on a clothed
transwoman breasts whose appearance and movement are
indistinguishable from a natal woman.
Assuming that
physically you are reasonably feminine in appearance, then passing
then often becomes all about the small things - things that are
second nature for someone brought up as girl but entirely strange
for a man - and things that Hollywood often has a field day over
when a man impersonates a woman in a comedy.
For
example, I physically
have too many "male" characteristics for comfort - too tall,
big feet, voice. But as an example of how small the
margin between passing and not passing is - when my sister had rhinoplasty
to reduce the size of her "family" nose I decided on impulse to join her
for the same procedure. The change was minimal but afterwards I was astonished at
how many people now assumed that I was a woman - and this was years
before I transitioned.
Examples of just
some of the many problems I faced pre-transition when a man included:
But an upside was express entry to night clubs and often free drinks!
When
I transitioned full-time, every time I appeared in public or had to interact with someone, I
initially felt that I
was acting" a female role. However,
when under pressure the human being is an amazingly
quick learner. As the months passed my instincts
and responses become automatically 'female'. I still caused slight puzzlement, but it
got ever more rarer and more
trivial.
The Covid Pandemic The outbreak of the Covid-19 pandemic in early 2020
resulted in 'lockdowns' around the world. In the UK and Ireland, for
two years people were encouraged or even legally required to stay at home.
Shops and schools closed, offices were empty, socialising was discouraged
and long-distance travel became impossible. Often only 'essential workers' were
allowed to go to work, everyone else had to work at home if
possible. An unexpected result of the restrictions was the
extraordinary increase in the number of transgender people transitioning.
The pandemic and lockdowns initially had a negative mental impact (like
most of the rest of the population) on transwomen, but some re-appraised their situation
and realised that it was a unique opportunity to transition without
the stress of constantly facing other people. 'Kelly' is a good example of this.
[Link removed at the request of Kelly].
Born in 1994 he knew
as a teenager that she was a transwoman but didn't have the courage to
publicly admit this. Age
26, he was a Solution Consultant for a software
company when the pandemic broke out. From March 2020 he had to work remotely, using video conferencing tools such as Teams and Zoom.
He
soon realised that he was often being identified on the calls as a woman -
aided by his androgenous name. He encouraged this 'mistake' by
letting his hair grow (later aided with extensions) and discreetly wearing make-up. After six months
Kelly moved to another company
as "she/her", she simultaneously transitioned and began taking
hormones - initially contraceptive pills provided by her sympathetic
sisters. Although the pandemic effectively ended in early 2022,
Kelly continued to work remotely - indeed she had still not met her work colleagues in person
by
the end of the year! However, she was now very confident about her
ability to pass and had booked GCS for early 2023. On social media,
Kelly said that she was "in a relationship". This referred to her
long-standing friendship with a man she first met in 2011 i.e. 9 years
before her transition. They now have a
strong boyfriend/girlfriend
relationship.
Facial feminisation
surgery (FFS) is often the next priority. Prior to
about 1995 this really just meant a nose job (rhinoplasty), but
progress since then has been extraordinary. For transwomen
with deep pockets, and willing to stand the pain, an acceptably
female - even attractive - face is often only a large cheque
away. When you are trying to pass in public as a woman
every day, a cute nose and feminine jaw line matters far than
the contents of your panties.
The financial gains from prostitution as a shemale
The cost and medical risks associated with the surgery Still enjoying an
active sex life with a penis Her partner is firmly against the procedure Sexual libido is so low that she has no interest in having
intercourse as a woman |
Last updated: 17 January 2021